When Nagging Threatens a Marriage
Nagging can quickly become a habitual pattern that degrades into a vicious cycle. Continually complaining or browbeating a partner about his shortcomings and failures often results in a backfire situation. The person being nagged drags his heels more and avoids the situation, and the nagger just nags more because nothing is being done.
The more nagging continues in a relationship, the more the couple split apart from each other. The nagging becomes routine, a monotonous repetition of criticism that partners begin to tune out like background noise. People stop listening and ignore the complaining, avoiding any conversation at all. They withdraw emotionally and try not to be in the same room as the nagger. Basically, nagging isn't an effective form of communication.
Why do women nag?
The more nagging continues in a relationship, the more the couple split apart from each other. The nagging becomes routine, a monotonous repetition of criticism that partners begin to tune out like background noise. People stop listening and ignore the complaining, avoiding any conversation at all. They withdraw emotionally and try not to be in the same room as the nagger. Basically, nagging isn't an effective form of communication.
Why do women nag?
Women nag for a few reasons. They may want something done and their partner isn't interested in doing the job. They may want their partner to change and think they are being helpful when they nag. It may seem to be less of an annoyance to them and more of a reminder, especially if they don’t like a particular habit of their spouse and are trying to discourage it.
Less obvious reasons for nagging include feeling lonely, being resentful, feeling bitterness, or wanting more affection. Like Aesop's fable of the fox who decided the grapes were probably sour once he discovered he couldn't reach them, so do women push away what they crave most: help, companionship, support, and affection.
Less obvious reasons for nagging include feeling lonely, being resentful, feeling bitterness, or wanting more affection. Like Aesop's fable of the fox who decided the grapes were probably sour once he discovered he couldn't reach them, so do women push away what they crave most: help, companionship, support, and affection.
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